Tuesday, August 11, 2009


This year we have decided to send Coby off to EFY (Especially For Youth). We didn't have enough dough to send him to a program that was "on campus", so we sent him to an area program in Ogden. My parents were nice enough to let him and his two friends stay at their house in Bountiful the whole week.

I don't know why I am so excited for him but I just feel giddy about the whole idea. I'm pretty sure I'm more excited than he was. I really hope Coby sees that there are many more youth out there struggling just like he is to live the standards of the gospel. I hope he meets other young men and women that are striving to get good grades, striving to keep the commandments and striving to make themselves better.

Too many times our youth are put down for trying to be better. How great would it be if the youth of today would build each other up instead of tearing each other down.

Positive Peer Pressure!

I listened to a talk this weekend about "positive peer pressure". The speaker talked about how awesome it would be if the youth could influence other youth to be better, to straighten up, to reach higher. Adult leaders are great but youth have MUCH more impact on their peers than adults do.

I've been a youth before. I know that it is hard enough just trying to keep your own self esteem above water. I know that only the strongest youth can walk over and pick someone else up out of their hardships. I just hope we can help teach and train these youth to see their worth so they can be the strength for those that are faltering.

It is very interesting to look at the Junior High years and High School years from the other side of the Adult / Youth fence. I think I would have handled those year differently if I had known what I know now.


Tiffany said...

I went to EFY one year at BYU and always attended the mini EFYs they did in Twin. I always loved them. It was so cool to see college kids being our leaders. We always thought they were the coolest people in the world. It is a powerful experience. I hope Coby loves it!

Melinda said...

i only went one year too. With Gaylynn Gunnell. It was great fun. Why didn't I go again?

Marni said...

What talk did you listen to? I've got a great one for youth by a guy named Dan Ralphs called "Living Life in the Sweet Spot" not given at a church function but from comments he made I believe he is/was a YM's president. I listened to it first and can definitely apply it myself, passed it on to Adam and Jamie and they really liked it too. Here's a link where you can buy it for $4 if you're interested:


The one for adults called "Mentoring Genius" on mentoring youth is really great too. I enjoyed it as a parent, but wish a lot of our youth leaders would listen to it as well.

Another tip I'll share with you only because you don't live by us and won't take our customers, but you could use in case your kids want to go to an "on campus" EFY or need to earn money for scout camp or whatever. Papa Murphy's sells these pizza cards for $1 each that have these awesome deals on it. I know someone that sent their child out selling them for $10 each and sold out of cards, but then they decided to give a better deal and sell them for $7 for one, $10 for two. Since I have two going to scout camp (plus Jamie) our guys have been selling them already a couple times. I'm stingy and don't normally like the things people come selling door-to-door, but I was impressed with the deals and would buy it if someone came to my door selling them.